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Belt Drive 0 Christmas, Contractors, Grateful, PTSD 11:51 AM

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<span lang="EN-US">As we get ready to celebrate the winter
solstice and all of the holidays around the world like Las Posadas, Saint
Stephen’s Day and Holy Innocents day I reflect on the year gone by and the year
ahead.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">As I look back at 2017, I realize that I
have been going through a painful rebirthing, envisioning of who I am, who
could I be?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I experienced a ton of change in 2017,
after 45 years of smoking cigarettes I am almost 1-year cigarette free.
(January 2<sup>nd</sup> is the anniversary.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My good friend Blair died earlier this year. He was the road captain on that fateful day when I hit a road boil and crashed and had another bike hit mine from behind. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9_mCJvpYA3QipepULgjNCOeYWP_kaA4fq7FrEjq8wNosUR40SZfjWKFqFMzte0LPqgzRno0aHllkpf-LFktF8UzDhhGYirM33B7LVJKOLjTWKz45My8-3EGTv8fXIcZJ9dHBX/s1600/IMG_1272.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg9_mCJvpYA3QipepULgjNCOeYWP_kaA4fq7FrEjq8wNosUR40SZfjWKFqFMzte0LPqgzRno0aHllkpf-LFktF8UzDhhGYirM33B7LVJKOLjTWKz45My8-3EGTv8fXIcZJ9dHBX/s320/IMG_1272.jpg" width="320" /></a><span lang="EN-US">I am not looking forward to discovery in February. It will bring up the memories of Blair, the sadness I feel at his departure from this side of the grass.  It will also bring up the frustration I feel over being sued by someone who hit me from behind, who was following too close.  </span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">The frustration I feel over a police officer that did not do his job and never sent me a subpoena so I had no idea what date, time or city court was in.  The fact that I have a letter of apology from the RCMP officer offers little comfort, as I now have to relive that day and that whole horrid affair all over again. ARGH….<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">In May of 2017, PTSD started kicking my ass
again, HARD. I did all of the survival things that I know to do to keep it at
bay, under control, under wraps, I succeeded most of the time and failed
miserably a couple of times.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><b>And that brings me to some people that I am
hugely grateful for.</b><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My contractors.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>Yes, my family too, but today it’s the people
who work with me I want to talk about…I am grateful to them and for them for so
many reasons.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I have an injury that no one else can see,
and sometimes I come across pretty impatient, harsh and intolerant with my tone
of voice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>Sometimes my volume goes up
and the aggression comes out and then the tears start to flow – tears of frustration
at not being able to let nice Renee out. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">For these people to keep hanging in there
with me, through the ups and downs, well a girl can’t feel much more gratitude
than I do right now.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>I have come so
close to losing everything I have worked all my life for, including my sanity,
thanks to PTSD.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">PTSD is hard to explain because no two
people truly experience it the same way.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My triggers are someone spitting in my face
while they are talking/yelling at me, the color orange when I feel threatened
or vulnerable, someone coming at me from behind, unsecured loads, fire…there
are a few others but these are the most important, the most hurtful of all of
the triggers because they can spiral me into a pit of despair so fast. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These are my least controllable triggers.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">In May I had a disagreement with someone
who reminds me a lot of my mother.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My mother is a huge contributor to my hidden
injury called PTSD.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Anyway, the relationship I had with my
mother was love/hate. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">It was stormy, and at times violent.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">This happened on May 4<sup>th</sup>, the
anniversary of Fort Mac, I was already fragile, but I knew if I got away from
the TV and radio and all of the accounts and documentaries and threw myself
into something I am wildly passionate about I’d be OK.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Once at the monument site, I had this
person that was yelling at me about something she knew nothing about, she was
doing it in front of a crew of construction workers, many in orange safety
vests as she was spitting in my face while yelling.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>I triggered hard. I was vibrating from head
to toe, shaking like a leaf, and I asked this person 3 times to “PLEASE get out
of my personal space”. The fourth time I didn’t ask, I yelled at her calling
her some very choice, un-lady like names and ran to my car.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">   </span>I drove out of the parking lot too fast, to
a safe place about 2 blocks away and stopped the car. The waterworks were just
flowing.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My heart was hammering, my mouth was dry,
my ears were ringing, and my palms were wet. It took me a good half hour to get
a grip on myself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>I went back to the job
site and thankfully she and her vehicle were gone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>The rest of the day went uninterrupted, but I
felt my embarrassment and I also felt the embarrassment of these men who were
volunteering their time to help me at the monument site, having to witness this
altercation, it was truly mortifying.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">All summer long I battled the dark
thoughts, the self-destruction, the pulling back from life and finally I sought
out a business coach I know.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>With her
help, I started re-carving a path forward for my business and me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>The PTSD still weighs heavy on my brain, but
having her to talk to and guide me, motivate me, understand and support me –
WHEW – HUGE. So Holly Sorgen of EmPower Up, thank you for being such a kick
assed business coach and holding my feet to the fire to perform and show up.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Susan Healey – for 12 years of the 15 I’ve
been running this business, this gal has become my friend, my sister, and my
anchor.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>It’s so funny – this quiet,
unassuming human being can whip my ass into shape over my tone or the way I say
something or react to something like no one else can.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>I almost need to be paying her fees for
therapy because she sure helps me. I know there are times that if she didn’t
need this job she’d have left me, but I am so grateful she’s stuck it out. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Grateful that today we have the kind of
relationship where she is helping to prepare me to be a boss, a manager of
people. That thought alone used to terrify me, that’s why I had a hard time
growing this thing. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Her patience, perseverance and quiet
unassuming way coupled with the knowledge that she is always there for me to
bounce things off of, to vent to, so that I can think clearer…yes, without
Suzie I am not sure where I’d be, but it wouldn’t be as the editor of a
newspaper for motorcyclists that’s for sure. I’d have given up a long time ago. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Then there’s Dave T.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>Dave has been with us three years now and his
passion and dedication for helping all of the charity events, big & small across
the nation get added to our calendars and promoted on Facebook is nothing short
of a blessing.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Dave also has the patience to deal with my
invisible injury.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>He is not afraid to
let me know if I cross a line, he’s kind but firm about it!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">And last but not least there is Rhonda, my
one and only sales rep; Rhonda is the president of RAGE in Saskatchewan and
also has PTSD.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span>She was run over by a
drunk driver in an SUV and was pinned under that SUV - ON HER MOTORCYCLE. Along
side her many physical injuries, PTSD is one of her most painful and
challenging to manage injuries too.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Rhonda’s PTSD reacts different from mine –
where I knee jerk and generally become hurtful with my mouth, Rhonda turtles,
pulls inside her self.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">She drives me crazy, challenges the hell
out of me, and forces both of us to be more compassionate with one another.
Hidden injuries are hard to deal with in others, even when you yourself suffer
from a hidden injury. Ask any veteran.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">We are a team, as dysfunctional as any
family can be, but as tight as any family can be.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">   </span>As I sit back and reflect on a year filled
with ups and downs, smiles and tears, I can see the perfect balance these
people bring to my life, my business and me. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My only hope is that I bring value to
theirs as well.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">My team of contractors balances me out; they
hold me accountable while understanding that PTSD is not always “controllable”.
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<span lang="EN-US">Sometimes you have to ride it out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">  </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">The fact that they get it makes me feel
blessed and special.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I am not sure why I deserve their loyalty
and friendship, but I am grateful for it and hope they know I have their six and
that they are part of my extended family, and are loved and appreciated even
when it doesn’t seem so.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">I hope that as you reflect back on your
year that you can count many blessings and I’ll bet as you examine all of those
blessings, a person is attached to them somewhere!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Merry Christmas, Happy New Year and all the
best to you and yours in 2018!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Belt Drive Betty,</span></div>
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As we get ready to celebrate the winter solstice and all of the holidays around the world like Las Posadas, Saint Stephen’s Day and Holy Innocents day I reflect on the year gone by and the year ahead. As I look back at 2017, I realize that I have be… Read more »

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